As a first time voter, I am really concerned about the possibility of a narcissist leading America as president and commander in chief. I grew up with a narcissist and so I know the signs, and how destructive a narcissist is to all those around them.
According to Psychcentral.com, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is characterized by behaviors of “grandiosity, an overwhelming need for admiration, and a complete lack of empathy toward others. People with this disorder often believe they are of primary importance.” Furthermore, people with narcissistic personality disorder often “display snobbish, disdainful, or patronizing attitudes.”
In order to be diagnosed with NPD, a person will meet five or more of the following nine characteristics. As I watch the news and the debates it has become clear to me that Mr. Trump is a narcissist. In fact, from my estimation it appears that he exhibits all nine characteristics of a narcissist. And, it scares me that this man, Mr. Trump, could make decisions for our nation with respect to, well, anything, but especially nuclear war.
Here are the nine traits of a narcissist and an example(s) of how Trump exhibits this trait.
- Has a grandiose sense of self-importance
Trump: “I’m not sure I have ever asked God’s forgiveness.”
Trump: “I just start kissing them. It’s like a magnet. Just kiss. I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star they let you do it. You can do anything.”
- Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
Trump: “My IQ is one of the highest — and you all know it! Please don’t feel so stupid or insecure; it’s not your fault.”
Trump: “My fingers are long and beautiful, as, it has been well documented, are various other parts of my body.”
Trump: “I’m smarter.”
Trump: “I’m richer.”
- Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people
Trump: “My Twitter has become so powerful that I can actually make my enemies tell the truth.”
- Requires excessive admiration
Trump: “All of the women on ‘The Apprentice’ flirted with me – consciously or unconsciously. That’s to be expected.”
Trump: “Beautiful, famous, successful, married – I’ve had them all, secretly, the world’s biggest names, but unlike Geraldo I don’t talk about it.”
- Has a very strong sense of entitlement, and unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectation
Trump: “I will build a great wall – and nobody builds walls better than me, believe me – and I’ll build them very inexpensively. I will build a great, great wall on our southern border, and I will make Mexico pay for that wall. Mark my words.”
Trump: “Grab them by the p-ssy. I can do anything,” Trump says.
- Is exploitative of others to achieve his own ends
Trump: “The point is, you can never be too greedy.”
Trump exploits his base supporters and their political ignorance. An ABC/Washington Post survey shows that Trump’s support comes disproportionately from those with relatively low levels of education.
- Lacks empathy
Trump: When Mexico sends its people, they’re not sending their best. They’re not sending you. They’re not sending you. They’re sending people who have lots of problems, and they’re bringing those problems with us. They’re bringing drugs. They’re bringing crime. (Instead of recognizing that the data shows that most Mexican immigrants are not violent, but instead people simply looking for a place where actual opportunity exists).
Trump: “A total and complete shutdown of Muslims entering the United States until our country’s representatives can figure out what is going on,” (It appears that his lack of empathy has distorted his mind’s ability to grasp the fact that the refugees he speaks of are actually seeking safety from the same murderous maniacs that he wants to keep out).
- Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her
Trump: “I think the only difference between me and the other candidates is that I’m more honest and my women are more beautiful.”
- Regularly shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
Trump: “The beauty of me is that I’m very rich.”
Trump: “You’d be in jail” (To Hilary Clinton during the debate).
In addition, as I well know, the danger of a narcissist is their tongue, and they use it to demean anyone who threatens No. 1-9 above. Their tongue is their weapon! And, Trump well uses his tongue derisively toward anyone who threatens him. For example during this election, here are some of the names he has called others: Lyin’ Ted Cruz; Low-Energy Jeb; Little Marco; Crooked Hilary; Crazy Megan Kelly.
And, he does not stop at just name calling, he also uses his tongue to attack those that threaten his sense of grandiosity:
Trump: “I get called by a guy that can’t buy a pair of pants, I get called names?” – (Trump’s comment about paralyzed commentator Charles Krauthammer).
Trump: “How stupid are the people of Iowa?” (Trump when Iowa did not vote for him).
Of course, he also uses his tongue in pursuit of his xenophobic, misogynistic, and racist narcissist agenda as well:
Trump: “If I were running ‘The View’, I’d fire Rosie O’Donnell. I mean, I’d look at her right in that fat, ugly face of hers, I’d say ‘Rosie, you’re fired.’”
Trump: “Look at that face! Would anyone vote for that? Can you imagine that, the face of our next president?! I mean, (Carly Fiorina’s) a woman, and I’m not supposed to say bad things, but really, folks, come on. Are we serious?”
Trump: “You know, it really doesn’t matter what they write as long as you’ve got a young and beautiful piece of a–.”
Trump: “You could see there was blood coming out of (Megyn Kelly’s) eyes, blood coming out of her whatever.”
Nope, I don’t think so. I don’t think that someone with such a destructive personality disorder is fit to be president. You see, as soon as he is threatened he will attack. That’s what narcissists do, and he has proven to us during the election that attacking is his modus operandi. He will attack domestically and attack globally in pursuit of his sense of self as a “God.” His sense of self-will always supersede the needs of the nation, because a narcissist is the center of the world, and the rest of us just live in it.